allthehiddlefeels:

mindofgemini:

thisnoiseismusic:

Hi, there. I’m wearing a shirt that reads “Kill Me”. If you saw me at a party or on the street would you promptly murder me? What about if I had a few drinks? What if I was walking alone at night?I’m guessing that you wouldn’t if you’re a sane individual. The cops wouldn’t overlook your crime because of what I’m wearing because that’s silly. I wasn’t literally asking for you to kill me based on my choice of clothing. Who would take that defense seriously?
My friends wouldn’t blame me for being murdered and my killer would be behind bars almost instantly. So, why is it okay to rape someone because they’re wearing revealing clothes? Why does THEIR choice of clothing excuse THEIR attacker? It doesn’t. You’re silly if you think otherwise. The less guilt on the attacker. The more guilt on victim. Stop. Victim. Blaming.

Reblogging this again because it’s perfect.

This is just so perfect.

allthehiddlefeels:

mindofgemini:

thisnoiseismusic:

Hi, there.
I’m wearing a shirt that reads “Kill Me”.
If you saw me at a party or on the street would you promptly murder me?
What about if I had a few drinks? What if I was walking alone at night?
I’m guessing that you wouldn’t if you’re a sane individual.

The cops wouldn’t overlook your crime because of what I’m wearing because that’s silly. I wasn’t literally asking for you to kill me based on my choice of clothing. Who would take that defense seriously?

My friends wouldn’t blame me for being murdered and my killer would be behind bars almost instantly.

So, why is it okay to rape someone because they’re wearing revealing clothes? Why does THEIR choice of clothing excuse THEIR attacker?

It doesn’t. You’re silly if you think otherwise.
The less guilt on the attacker. The more guilt on victim.

Stop. Victim. Blaming.

Reblogging this again because it’s perfect.

This is just so perfect.

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Anonymous asked
You guys are actually amazing though, what you do for people is fantastic, I'm sure you know how much you help, but still. Thankyous need to be said. Have a nice day!

I’m just glad that you’ve felt comfortable enough to come to us. It takes a lot of bravery to speak honestly about what you’ve been through. Good luck.

-A

Anonymous asked
Well atleast I'm not the best man otherwise I would have to dance with her... Well my siblings will be there so it makes it awkward to just leave you know? I'm really worried about this. I know I've said it before, but thankyou so much for listening.

I understand feeling awkward about leaving early. If it gets too much, I suggest just going outside or even to the bathroom so you can breathe and have a bit of space. I hope it goes okay for you. Remember, it’s okay to put yourself first, even if that means making a white lie. You’re not a bad person for needing care.

And thank you for trusting us with your story and situation. You are more than welcome to come to us whenever you need it.

-A

Anonymous asked
Well it's her big sister who abused me... I don't know if she would deal with it well. Another thing, I know she means well but she is always trying to get me to go on a date with her friends. It's making me feel bad for always declining...

cont. Oh yeah. I’ve been asked to be a groomsman, because I went to school with her fiance and we are good friends, while she is the maid of honor… So yeah, that’s fun. So I would feel pretty shit to miss the party.
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Regarding her trying to set you up with her friends, let her know that while you appreciate her effort, you’re not comfortable with being “set up” and you would rather come across someone on your own, naturally. Hopefully she’ll get the hint and will relax a bit on that side of things.

As for the wedding, it’s really up to you to decide whether you can deal with your abuser being there, in close proximity. If you would rather not go because it will be too triggering for you, let your cousin know that something happened to you several years ago that will effect your mental wellbeing at the wedding, but it hurts you to talk about it. Ask her if you can celebrate with her another day because you do feel bad about missing the event.

If you do decide to go, I suggest avoiding her as much as you possibly can. Even if you leave a bit early and feign illness. Your mental health is really important. And it’s okay to make yourself a priority.

-A

Anonymous asked
I was abused between the ages of 3 and 8 by someone who was very close to me. Unfortunately, I repressed most of it and am only now starting to realize what happened to me. Since this realization, I've been obsessed with things about dark topics like that... it makes my mother frustrated with me.. She just wants me to be happy, and I really try to be.. but.. I can't help it, and feeling this way makes me feel so guilty... am I really wrong for obsessing over things like this? :(

You’re not wrong for obsessing over things like that, especially considering you have repressed memories. It could be your own way of trying to figure out what happened to you and to try and understand your own situation.

Would it be possible to speak to a professional about the things you are starting to remember? It could help you come to terms with everything and may even help you remember more things (if you want to). You can’t force happiness and it’ll be difficult to move on until you’ve dealt with what’s causing the obsession.

-A

lacigreen:

i’ve worked with a lot of universities that use the “consent is sexy” motto, and i get why they do it (it’s a marketing thing).  but i do think it downplays the absolute necessity of consent.  consent isn’t important because it makes things sexier.  it’s important because it prevents rape.

lacigreen:

i’ve worked with a lot of universities that use the “consent is sexy” motto, and i get why they do it (it’s a marketing thing).  but i do think it downplays the absolute necessity of consent.  consent isn’t important because it makes things sexier.  it’s important because it prevents rape.

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turtletot43:

baby-make-it-hurt:

hoffmango:

cause-shes-bittersweet:

smindersonfan:

secretmindreader:

Okay, this is actually what you do if you’re being sexually harassed in any kind of public space. Draw attention to it, preferably pull away and let EVERYONE know that someone is touching you. This will not only get him to get off you but he’ll definitely think about this situation next time he wants to do something like this.

Spreading the word.

My mom and I were talking about this today after hearing about a woman who was molested on a plane who said nothing until she was picked up at the airport by her parents. My mom looked at me and asked what I would do in that situation and I looked her dead in the eye and I told her “it would take me .02 seconds to realize what was going on and yell angrily, and then I would be straight on to bitch slapping him so hard he wouldn’t be able to see the punch I’d throw with the opposite hand”.
She nodded and accepted my salty language like a seasoned sailor.
I’ve had experience with this before, in Prague a group of five girls and I were followed by three men at night. After a while they started yelling at us, the most common being “how much?” Meaning how much we “cost” as prostitutes. Seeing as they weren’t going to stop, I turned on my heel, faced them (which surprised them), spat at their feet and responded with “You couldn’t afford me.” This prompted the other girls to start yelling back at them as well, starting with our spitfire Czech friend to start slinging curses in Czech as she and the rest of the girls came up beside me. Needless to say the men backed off and pretty much fled. They weren’t expecting a fight. It empowered me and encouraged the rest of the girls to yell back too.
I’ve heard that a lot of people don’t know what to do in this situation because they’ve been taught all their lives to be polite and non-aggressive. Keep your heads down or whatever.
Keep in mind that studies have shown that rapists look for victims who won’t fight back.
Remember that nobody has the right to touch you without your consent or harass you, and you have all the right to make the biggest fuss about it that you can possibly make.
Get angry. Be in command.

FUCKING RELEVANT

Yes.This.

Gentle reminder that I have publicly called someone out for an act of similar disrespect and…
got beaten unconscious. On a base full of fellow Marines.
If I had been anywhere else, I’m not sure I’d be alive today, because a fuckton of Marines descended on my attacker and pulled him away before he could finish beating me to death.
Sooooooo
Use good judgment. Screaming and yelling at a dude(s) is not always going to result in them backing down like dogs. 
The presence of other people does not mean that the aggressor is going to back down, nor does it mean that anyone will be around to save you from getting [shot/stabbed/beaten/raped/etc].
Stand up for yourself, but use good judgment.
Another option, if you aren’t 100% sure of your safety, is to quietly take mental notes/notes on your iPhone/piece of paper/whatthefuckever and take that information to the nearest police station. Report it to TSA/security/whoever is in charge at the place of the harassment. 

^^^ Important commentary.

turtletot43:

baby-make-it-hurt:

hoffmango:

cause-shes-bittersweet:

smindersonfan:

secretmindreader:

Okay, this is actually what you do if you’re being sexually harassed in any kind of public space. Draw attention to it, preferably pull away and let EVERYONE know that someone is touching you. This will not only get him to get off you but he’ll definitely think about this situation next time he wants to do something like this.

Spreading the word.

My mom and I were talking about this today after hearing about a woman who was molested on a plane who said nothing until she was picked up at the airport by her parents. My mom looked at me and asked what I would do in that situation and I looked her dead in the eye and I told her “it would take me .02 seconds to realize what was going on and yell angrily, and then I would be straight on to bitch slapping him so hard he wouldn’t be able to see the punch I’d throw with the opposite hand”.

She nodded and accepted my salty language like a seasoned sailor.

I’ve had experience with this before, in Prague a group of five girls and I were followed by three men at night. After a while they started yelling at us, the most common being “how much?” Meaning how much we “cost” as prostitutes. Seeing as they weren’t going to stop, I turned on my heel, faced them (which surprised them), spat at their feet and responded with “You couldn’t afford me.” This prompted the other girls to start yelling back at them as well, starting with our spitfire Czech friend to start slinging curses in Czech as she and the rest of the girls came up beside me. Needless to say the men backed off and pretty much fled. They weren’t expecting a fight. It empowered me and encouraged the rest of the girls to yell back too.

I’ve heard that a lot of people don’t know what to do in this situation because they’ve been taught all their lives to be polite and non-aggressive. Keep your heads down or whatever.

Keep in mind that studies have shown that rapists look for victims who won’t fight back.

Remember that nobody has the right to touch you without your consent or harass you, and you have all the right to make the biggest fuss about it that you can possibly make.

Get angry. Be in command.

FUCKING RELEVANT

Yes.
This.

Gentle reminder that I have publicly called someone out for an act of similar disrespect and…

got beaten unconscious. On a base full of fellow Marines.

If I had been anywhere else, I’m not sure I’d be alive today, because a fuckton of Marines descended on my attacker and pulled him away before he could finish beating me to death.

Sooooooo

Use good judgment. Screaming and yelling at a dude(s) is not always going to result in them backing down like dogs. 

The presence of other people does not mean that the aggressor is going to back down, nor does it mean that anyone will be around to save you from getting [shot/stabbed/beaten/raped/etc].

Stand up for yourself, but use good judgment.

Another option, if you aren’t 100% sure of your safety, is to quietly take mental notes/notes on your iPhone/piece of paper/whatthefuckever and take that information to the nearest police station. Report it to TSA/security/whoever is in charge at the place of the harassment. 

^^^ Important commentary.

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nolongervictimsconfessionsmst:

Hey Scumsucker,
         You think that what you did to me was wrong, I heard you admit it. So just because the Marine Corps let you off doesn’t mean you won’t get what’s coming to you. You already got demoted and kicked out of the military, but I’m more satisfied with the fact that you will be forever marked as a rapist. You might not have been convicted but you were charged and that will follow you the rest of your pathetic life. Me however, I have a beautiful family and a wonderful life. I’ve moved past the depression and the hatred and the disappointment in the military and I’m seeing life in a better light. I hope one day when you find someone who will accept the things you’ve done in the past and that you look back and remember what a piece of shit you really are. Needless to say if you were on fire and I had a glass of water, I would drink it. You don’t deserve happiness. You don’t deserve forgiveness. You don’t deserve life. Good luck trying to find anyone who thinks you’re worth anything, because you’re not. I hope I see you again one day so I can walk up to you and look you in the eyes and say “You didn’t win this time.” Then I will kick you swiftly in the balls and walk away. No you deserve more than that……I will simply have my service dog castrate you.

nolongervictimsconfessionsmst:

Hey Scumsucker,
         You think that what you did to me was wrong, I heard you admit it. So just because the Marine Corps let you off doesn’t mean you won’t get what’s coming to you. You already got demoted and kicked out of the military, but I’m more satisfied with the fact that you will be forever marked as a rapist. You might not have been convicted but you were charged and that will follow you the rest of your pathetic life. Me however, I have a beautiful family and a wonderful life. I’ve moved past the depression and the hatred and the disappointment in the military and I’m seeing life in a better light. I hope one day when you find someone who will accept the things you’ve done in the past and that you look back and remember what a piece of shit you really are. Needless to say if you were on fire and I had a glass of water, I would drink it. You don’t deserve happiness. You don’t deserve forgiveness. You don’t deserve life. Good luck trying to find anyone who thinks you’re worth anything, because you’re not. I hope I see you again one day so I can walk up to you and look you in the eyes and say “You didn’t win this time.” Then I will kick you swiftly in the balls and walk away. No you deserve more than that……I will simply have my service dog castrate you.