May 18, 2013   12,315 notes

thisisrapeculture:

sublime-sweatpants:

Why doesn’t anyone discuss how society’s perceived ownership of the female body extends into parents who dictate everything their daughters do?

Not letting your daughters express themselves in how they dress, talk, wear their hair, or whether or not they wear makeup just gives them the idea, from an extremely young age, that their body is not their own and they must please others by making it look how they view best.
Learn that before you have children.

We need to teach our children about consent and what common courtesy and showing respect is. NOT how they must limit their own lives to avoid getting raped.

(Source: selectiveavantgarde)

May 18, 2013   132 notes
theconcealedweapon:

A lot of rich people do wear expensive suits, wear expensive watches and other jewelry, and drive expensive cars. In fact, if you’re rich, it’s considered socially acceptable to show it off by wearing expensive items.  Nobody victim-blames them if they’re robbed.
Also, by saying that he’s asking to be mugged, you’re accusing the people around him of being muggers. And by saying that a woman is asking to be raped, you’re accusing the men around her of being rapists. 

This

theconcealedweapon:

A lot of rich people do wear expensive suits, wear expensive watches and other jewelry, and drive expensive cars. In fact, if you’re rich, it’s considered socially acceptable to show it off by wearing expensive items.  Nobody victim-blames them if they’re robbed.

Also, by saying that he’s asking to be mugged, you’re accusing the people around him of being muggers. And by saying that a woman is asking to be raped, you’re accusing the men around her of being rapists. 

This

(Source: feminism-is-retarded)

May 18, 2013   450 notes
This is how it is, but it’s not how it should be.

This is how it is, but it’s not how it should be.

(via glucomaniac)

May 18, 2013

Anonymous asked: what's your YouTube channel?

There’s only one video so far, but we have a few more in the works.

http://www.youtube.com/user/WeBelieveYouProject

May 17, 2013   9 notes

The more I write about this shit, the more I realize that stopping rape culture is just like stopping rape, in the sense that women and anti-rape allies are tasked with stopping both, and both will only stop when the perpetrators make different fucking choices.

All I can do is invite them, over and over and over and fucking over, to please make those different choices.

This comment hit me hard when I first read it. Sometimes this does feel like the whole truth of the matter. I want to scream it from the rooftops: “Please make different fucking choices!” and turn my back on the whole thing. But then I see the little changes. The dawning of awareness in someone who wasn’t aware before.  Conversations between people who’ve never discussed rape or rape culture before. It does mean something, this writing we do. A little bit of something. Slowly.

(via endrapenow)

May 17, 2013   4,637 notes

“ This is what I don’t get - Women are impure because males have touched them. Who’s the dirty one here? ”

Comment on Jezebel article “Female ‘Purity’ Is Bullshit”  (via lorbeere)

Women aren’t impure when they’re assaulted. Men aren’t emasculated when they’re assaulted.

This quote applies to both consensual and non-consensual sexual encounters, and I hope you all can remember that. Your worth cannot be diminished by someone else’s crimes.

(Source: lunarynth, via glucomaniac)

May 17, 2013   19 notes
May 17, 2013   131,922 notes
thebestworstidea:

softgore:


“This piece was primarily a trust exercise, in which she told viewers she would not move for six hours no matter what they did to her.  She placed 72 objects one could use in pleasing or destructive ways, ranging from flowers and a feather boa to a knife and a loaded pistol, on a table near her and invited the viewers to use them on her however they wanted.  
Initially, Abramović said, viewers were peaceful and timid, but it escalated to violence quickly.  “The experience I learned was that … if you leave decision to the public, you can be killed… I felt really violated: they cut my clothes, stuck rose thorns in my stomach, one person aimed the gun at my head, and another took it away. It created an aggressive atmosphere. After exactly 6 hours, as planned, I stood up and started walking toward the public. Everyone ran away, escaping an actual confrontation.”
This piece revealed something terrible about humanity, similar to what Philip Zimbardo’s Stanford Prison Experiment or Stanley Milgram’s Obedience Experiment, both of which also proved how readily people will harm one another under unusual circumstances.” 
This performance showed just how easy it is to dehumanize a person who doesn’t fight back, and is particularly powerful because it defies what we think we know about ourselves. I’m certain the no one reading this believes the people around him/her capable of doing such things to another human being, but this performance proves otherwise.”

this is why performance art is important

So every single person who told me ‘ignore them they’ll go away’ and ‘you can’t let them know they bothered you’ and ‘They’ll stop if they don’t see you react’ and all that bull shit, my entire school career, I want you to look good and hard at this.
I want you to think about what you said.
What you keep saying.
What you are telling your children.
You are making them powerless.

Ignoring the problem doesn’t usually (maybe ever) work. You aren’t a bad person for reacting to your assault, or to rape culture in general.

thebestworstidea:

softgore:

“This piece was primarily a trust exercise, in which she told viewers she would not move for six hours no matter what they did to her.  She placed 72 objects one could use in pleasing or destructive ways, ranging from flowers and a feather boa to a knife and a loaded pistol, on a table near her and invited the viewers to use them on her however they wanted. 

Initially, Abramović said, viewers were peaceful and timid, but it escalated to violence quickly.  “The experience I learned was that … if you leave decision to the public, you can be killed… I felt really violated: they cut my clothes, stuck rose thorns in my stomach, one person aimed the gun at my head, and another took it away. It created an aggressive atmosphere. After exactly 6 hours, as planned, I stood up and started walking toward the public. Everyone ran away, escaping an actual confrontation.”

This piece revealed something terrible about humanity, similar to what Philip Zimbardo’s Stanford Prison Experiment or Stanley Milgram’s Obedience Experiment, both of which also proved how readily people will harm one another under unusual circumstances.”

This performance showed just how easy it is to dehumanize a person who doesn’t fight back, and is particularly powerful because it defies what we think we know about ourselves. I’m certain the no one reading this believes the people around him/her capable of doing such things to another human being, but this performance proves otherwise.”

this is why performance art is important

So every single person who told me ‘ignore them they’ll go away’ and ‘you can’t let them know they bothered you’ and ‘They’ll stop if they don’t see you react’ and all that bull shit, my entire school career, I want you to look good and hard at this.

I want you to think about what you said.

What you keep saying.

What you are telling your children.

You are making them powerless.

Ignoring the problem doesn’t usually (maybe ever) work. You aren’t a bad person for reacting to your assault, or to rape culture in general.

(Source: andrewfishman, via offshorebalancer)

May 17, 2013   2,074 notes

alexdwebber:

littlewarrior-recovering:

just-a-skinny-boy:

If you’ve been a victim of rape or abuse of any kind, this is for you.

He’s amazing.

Holy crap. This is so inspirational.

(Source: youtube.com, via survivorsupport)

May 17, 2013   19 notes