Support blog for all victims/survivors of sexual assault, molestation, incest, domestic violence and abusive relationships.
Any asks or submissions sent to us regarding false accusations will not be posted or responded to. This is a safe haven for people who have been through trauma and we want to avoid causing undue stress - doubt is not welcome here.
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itskudji replied to your post “how do i know if i was raped or if i was consenting?”
I tend to think that if you have to ask, it probably wasn’t consensual.
I hesitate to put it that way sometimes, but it’s essentially how I feel as well.
I’ll let Andrew introduce himself if he wants, but I really don’t know where you’re getting this impression.
He’s answered very few asks, and this recent one was the first that has gotten any complaints. If you look at some others, you’ll see they were quite well-received.
Can you explain what it is you find unhelpful or lacking in compassion? What makes the blog feel less safe? We’d obviously love to make this as safe a place as possible, but we can’t do that without a concrete idea of what to change.
If you wanted the sexual encounter, it’s probable that you consented. If you didn’t want the encounter, it’s likely you were raped.
I can only speak for myself, but I’m a firm believer that enthusiasm is the proper barometer for consent.
Look into your state’s statute of limitations to determine whether you can still press charges. Do not pursue vigilante justice.