Support blog for all victims/survivors of sexual assault, molestation, incest, domestic violence and abusive relationships.

Any asks or submissions sent to us regarding false accusations will not be posted or responded to. This is a safe haven for people who have been through trauma and we want to avoid causing undue stress - doubt is not welcome here.

Trigger warning can (and should) be assumed for all content, please don't hesitate to ask if there's something specific you'd like tagged.

 

theamericanavenger:

theamericanavenger:

Okay guys this is kinda important. GQ just came in the mail and for the first time in a long while it had a really important article…

I just sat here for like the last half hour reading this and I’m incredibly appalled at our justice system in regards to the military. The article interviews about 23 men who have all been sexually assaulted in some branch of the military. The PTSD from sexual assault in the military is more prevalent than PTSD from combat…

If you have a chance I suggest reading this article…and the title is a quote that one of the victims Doctor told him…

Hey guys! I’m very impressed and extremely happy to see this post gaining a lot of speed over the last few days! A few people have requested it, so i’ve gone ahead and scanned the pages of the article for those who want to read it, to read. 

So, here it is!

itskudji replied to your post “how do i know if i was raped or if i was consenting?”

I tend to think that if you have to ask, it probably wasn’t consensual.

This, exactly.

I hesitate to put it that way sometimes, but it’s essentially how I feel as well.

-L

Anonymous asked
Who is this Andrew? He's not a very helpful or compassionate seeming mod. Honestly this used to feel like a safe space for me, it doesn't anymore.

I’ll let Andrew introduce himself if he wants, but I really don’t know where you’re getting this impression.

He’s answered very few asks, and this recent one was the first that has gotten any complaints. If you look at some others, you’ll see they were quite well-received.

Can you explain what it is you find unhelpful or lacking in compassion? What makes the blog feel less safe? We’d obviously love to make this as safe a place as possible, but we can’t do that without a concrete idea of what to change.

-L

bheidh:

a reality check that’s a blow to the solar plexis

SEE ALSO: why i’m crumbling under the weight of prolonged loneliness for fear of letting anyone in again & repeating this

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Anonymous asked
how do i know if i was raped or if i was consenting?

If you wanted the sexual encounter, it’s probable that you consented. If you didn’t want the encounter, it’s likely you were raped.

I can only speak for myself, but I’m a firm believer that enthusiasm is the proper barometer for consent.

-L

Anonymous asked
It's been over a year, can I still press charges? Would you recommend it? Or should I exact revenge of my own?

Look into your state’s statute of limitations to determine whether you can still press charges. Do not pursue vigilante justice.

— Andrew

stranger-on—the-street:

Being a survivor has helped me become the advocate I am today, it has brought me to this blog, to help raise awareness on rape culture…. I came hoping and praying Id at-least help someone, and I have, and I’m so beyond happy this blog has some attention!!!!

stranger-on—the-street:

Being a survivor has helped me become the advocate I am today, it has brought me to this blog, to help raise awareness on rape culture…. I came hoping and praying Id at-least help someone, and I have, and I’m so beyond happy this blog has some attention!!!!