Why doesn’t anyone discuss how society’s perceived ownership of the female body extends into parents who dictate everything their daughters do?
Not letting your daughters express themselves in how they dress, talk, wear their hair, or whether or not they wear makeup just gives them the idea, from an extremely young age, that their body is not their own and they must please others by making it look how they view best.
Learn that before you have children.
We need to teach our children about consent and what common courtesy and showing respect is. NOT how they must limit their own lives to avoid getting raped.
A lot of rich people do wear expensive suits, wear expensive watches and other jewelry, and drive expensive cars. In fact, if you’re rich, it’s considered socially acceptable to show it off by wearing expensive items. Nobody victim-blames them if they’re robbed.
Also, by saying that he’s asking to be mugged, you’re accusing the people around him of being muggers. And by saying that a woman is asking to be raped, you’re accusing the men around her of being rapists.
This is how it is, but it’s not how it should be.
Anonymous asked: what's your YouTube channel?
There’s only one video so far, but we have a few more in the works.
The more I write about this shit, the more I realize that stopping rape culture is just like stopping rape, in the sense that women and anti-rape allies are tasked with stopping both, and both will only stop when the perpetrators make different fucking choices.
All I can do is invite them, over and over and over and fucking over, to please make those different choices.
This comment hit me hard when I first read it. Sometimes this does feel like the whole truth of the matter. I want to scream it from the rooftops: “Please make different fucking choices!” and turn my back on the whole thing. But then I see the little changes. The dawning of awareness in someone who wasn’t aware before. Conversations between people who’ve never discussed rape or rape culture before. It does mean something, this writing we do. A little bit of something. Slowly.
“ This is what I don’t get - Women are impure because males have touched them. Who’s the dirty one here? ”
Comment on Jezebel article “Female ‘Purity’ Is Bullshit” (via lorbeere)
Women aren’t impure when they’re assaulted. Men aren’t emasculated when they’re assaulted.
This quote applies to both consensual and non-consensual sexual encounters, and I hope you all can remember that. Your worth cannot be diminished by someone else’s crimes.
(Source: lunarynth, via glucomaniac)
GGG believes that a woman can’t rape a man.
1. Rape does not have to be with a penis. It can involve another body part or an inanimate object.
2. Forcing someone to penetrate you is rape. The rapist does not have to be the one penetrating.
3. A person with a penis can identify as a woman. A…
A great post by theconcealedweapon regarding rapes that aren’t typically discussed as often as (cis) male-on-female rapes.
“This piece was primarily a trust exercise, in which she told viewers she would not move for six hours no matter what they did to her. She placed 72 objects one could use in pleasing or destructive ways, ranging from flowers and a feather boa to a knife and a loaded pistol, on a table near her and invited the viewers to use them on her however they wanted.
Initially, Abramović said, viewers were peaceful and timid, but it escalated to violence quickly. “The experience I learned was that … if you leave decision to the public, you can be killed… I felt really violated: they cut my clothes, stuck rose thorns in my stomach, one person aimed the gun at my head, and another took it away. It created an aggressive atmosphere. After exactly 6 hours, as planned, I stood up and started walking toward the public. Everyone ran away, escaping an actual confrontation.”
This piece revealed something terrible about humanity, similar to what Philip Zimbardo’s Stanford Prison Experiment or Stanley Milgram’s Obedience Experiment, both of which also proved how readily people will harm one another under unusual circumstances.”
This performance showed just how easy it is to dehumanize a person who doesn’t fight back, and is particularly powerful because it defies what we think we know about ourselves. I’m certain the no one reading this believes the people around him/her capable of doing such things to another human being, but this performance proves otherwise.”
this is why performance art is important
So every single person who told me ‘ignore them they’ll go away’ and ‘you can’t let them know they bothered you’ and ‘They’ll stop if they don’t see you react’ and all that bull shit, my entire school career, I want you to look good and hard at this.
I want you to think about what you said.
What you keep saying.
What you are telling your children.
You are making them powerless.
Ignoring the problem doesn’t usually (maybe ever) work. You aren’t a bad person for reacting to your assault, or to rape culture in general.
(Source: andrewfishman, via offshorebalancer)
I need to get this out there, because it really isn’t talked about enough.
Masturbating to thoughts and memories of your rapist(s) and/or abuser(s) and what they did, or are doing, to you does not make you a bad person.
Masturbating to thoughts and memories of past and current rapes, abuse,…